I'm just Not that Into Dating advice

I love romantic comedies. I watch them through my fingers as one might watch a horror film. I giggle and carry on and when they're over, I analyze them. It's how I roll.

I saw "He's Just Not Into You" this weekend. I thought it was cute mainly because I love Justin Long and thought his connection on screen was adorable. The message of the film was interesting. I saw a lot of the same rituals that I play out with my friends depicted on screen and it became very clear how all that build up around "signals" only leads to disappointment. I like the idea of if he's not calling back or giving you what you need and deserve then move on. There are plenty of guys who will provide you all you need and gladly.

The other side of the overall dating advice presented in the movie was, if a guy wants to date you then he will make it happen. Aside from putting women in the submissive role, demand to be persuaded but do not persuade. It's to much pressure on guys and dis empowering to women. I think there's an undercurrent of resistance depicted here as well. Women analyze, sometimes to the point of absurdity men's signals. Should I text him? Should I include a smiley face on the end of the message? When he hugged me, he looked me in the eyes what does that mean? He hung out with me for six hours at a time, he must be in love. I think women do this because they seek to have more control over the dating game. Women don't like simply sitting back and letting the man take the lead. And I doubt that men always like being in the driving seat. There's so much uncertainty, and men and women are asked to play certain roles during the dating. Roles that are based on lies. So how do you get to the truth?

By the way, the only "healthy" relationships I've experienced or seen has been on screen. But that's another post.

Rebekah Carrow